Love Without Pre-conditions

I've found out recently, that you can't make people love you.
Doesn't matter how hard you try, it doesn't matter what you do or DON'T do. It is irrelevant how pretty you look, or how smart you are, (or think you are) or how dumb you pretend to be to make your friends laugh. There is nothing you can do to cause them (or anyone else for that matter) to Love you.
Which sucks, really. How many hours of our lives are spent wasted on the pursuit of unrequited love? How many flowers do we buy, how many chocolates do we consume, how many empty words are spoken? How long do we spend in the gym or how often do we throw up our lunch to catch the eye of someone who isn't looking? How nice are we? How many relentless hours of sleep go un-slept because we are busy thinking of ways to cause more love to float our way? How many plans go awry or phone calls go unanswered, when we are simply trying to grab the attention of a friend who doesn't notice? More importantly, how many other people feel the same way?
It just comes down to choice really. I've found, that "Love" (like patience or boredom,) is a CHOICE.
That's right. It's ridiculous to attempt to earn love, because when all is said and done, NOTHING you do can EVER cause someone to Love you. All your work, planning, effort, money, amounts to pretty much nothing.
Why?
Simply because regardless of what we do, that object of our affection, is the one who has to make the choice whether or not they want to love us.
I suppose, the beauty in this, is that when that other person actually DOES choose to Love us, then there isn't anything we can do to change their minds. Love has nothing to do about our decisions, and everything to do with theirs.
Which of course, reminds me of the Love God and Christ has for us, that in where we were still sinners, rebellious enemies of God, He still sent His son, Jesus to die for us. In the garden, Christ CHOSE to Love us, before we ever chose to love Him.
Why can't it be that easy for us humans? To love without Pre-Conditions? How many times have I let my heart be broken, trying to earn people's love, when it really just comes down to whether or not they really want to love me?
Am I trying to earn my salvation that way?
So, I guess, if there is anything to be said about Love, is this, If I tell you I love you, I mean it.
Whether or not you want to love me back, it's your choice.